For many people, sex is a topic that is only talked about after a bottle of wine, a romantic dinner, and when the lights are low. For me, sex is something I talk about every day; I won't get weird when I talk about sex! I would love to see couples having the ability to talk about sex openly and honestly, and not just when they're in the midst of it!
How can you start making that change in your life? Here are some of my pointers:
- Make a list of fantasies with your partner: it's an easy way to open the lines of communication- even if you don't act on the fantasies
- Discuss sex prior to having it:Obviously, if something isn't working you will need to tell your partner, but to really gain insight and progress, try discussing your likes and dislikes when your clothes are still on!
- Make your own list: Make a list of your sex likes and your dislikes, and if you feel comfortable, share it with your partner. If you're not comfortable, at least you have started to understand your own body!
- Self Pleasure: Self-pleasuring/masturbation is a great way to learn about yourself. Again, this might not be something your ready to share with your partner, but by understanding how you liked to be touched, you have taken a big step. If you are comfortable, try talking to your partner about which touches felt best for you!